Here I Am. Here You Are.
If its some random chaotic accident, why not make it a happy one? If it is an expression of Divine Intelligence or cosmic grand plan then might as well shoulder and savor the responsibility as best a mortal can.
There is not a dang thing we can do or undo to change it.
So, be here reverently or resistantly but pretending not to be here hurts and being non-reverent is kind of ugly.
Here belongs. You belong.
Its a miraculous sleight of hand that we could even think that “something is wrong,” or, “I’m not good enough” when you consider that:
The odds of you finding and reading this post are probably similar.
Thank you for reading these words.
18% of the world, about 1.2 billion people can’t read at all much less own a computer.
Feeling lucky yet?
A few inspiring sources:
I have accumulated a lot of nice photographs and sometimes, despite all and even during all, my meditating, will hatch a good idea or two. When these thought forms and little energetic dopplegangers pile too high I begin to feel menaced and overwhelmed by my equivalent of what Spaulding Gray used to call his “Monster in a Box” –a 1600 page and still growing unfinished novel that he carried around in a huge cardboard box next to his writing desk like a kind of cancerous creative sidecar. For all I know it is buried next to him now still throbbing with promise.
To keep that little creative “Mini Me” at least life-sized if not smaller, I set a challenge to myself to do a portfolio review and delete the four weakest images from each of my photo galleries. That got me thinking about curating vs collecting and the clarifying power of a discerning no. A compassionate and loving respectful no, an open-hearted no, the kind that Steve Jobs, King of the Delete Key, alludes to when he says “I am as proud of what we don’t do as I am of what we do.” Put another way, he is as proud of the no as he is of the yes.
A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. ~Gandhi
How often do you do a life review? When was the last time you said no?
Curate as a verb actually means to “be in charge of”, and is one of the most underappreciated skills and talents in the arts and in consumerist American culture. Those disciplined choices, all that “negative (no) space” , make the difference between a fine art museum and a warehouse of stacked canvases. Even more importantly, curating makes the difference between all these little creations and choices being in charge of us and us being in charge of them.
As an online reputation consultant, I frequently remind clients that saying no is the difference between having a recognizable identity and brand niche and being tossed into the brand bargain bin (picture Williams-Sonoma vs Walgreens).
Curating is a different mind-set and skill-set than creating. That is why there are writers and editors, artists and museum curators. Until I have my own agent or editor, I have to set aside time and head space specifically for one or the other. Trying to both at once is stultifying to the creative process and not quite rigorous enough for the curation. I generally put a piece away for weeks to months and come back to it with fresh eyes and perspective for a more critical review.
Ansel Adams said that “twelve significant photos in any one year is a good crop.” I still aspire to that kind of discipline, even in these Google Image and stock image crazed times where sheer volume and keyword density appear to reign supreme commercially.
Its not that there is something wrong with collecting–every curated body of work has to start with a collection, after all. It is when we use a collection as defense, and a kind of insulation or padding to feel safe that we begin to serve it instead of the other way around. There are areas of my life where I curate and areas where I collect. I’m noticing that the areas I curate are the areas where people can most readily connect and relate to. I tend to collect in domains of life where where I feel insecure or uncertain, interior, private backwater eddies, subconscious material that hasn’t quite taken shape yet or that I haven’t felt clear enough to shape yet.
As an empathic, intuitive and introverted person I can spend a good length of time in that murky cloud of creative chaos and the momentum and solitude of it is fertile soil for the next creation. But as much as I like my alone time I realize its not so healthy to stay in the output mode and all the clutter it generates indefinitely. It has an infinite incessancy, and I feel like an industrious creative little beaver, that must keep gnawing wood or its front teeth will grow too long for its mouth and pierce through the tongue. Meanwhile my creations pile.
Then I know it is time to curate again, time to clear the creative cache. When I want more clients and clearer head, I clean my car and throw away papers.
It is a personal regenerative cycle that informs the next evolution of creation and gives me at least the illusion of doership in whatever it is that life is expressing through me.
Fundraiser for Amma Karunamayi with musicians/performers Amy Arani, Judy Piazza, John Bagdasarian, Michael Reidinger and friends and a delicious indian dinner to support Amma Sri Karunamayi’s upcoming visit to Southern California.
Befriending silence is like having a whale whisper in your ear
or sharing a sandwich with a planet.
A humbling and ridiculous mashup.
Only grace can make you feel both so precious and tiny.
You don’t even need to make the first move.
Silence is already there. And here.
Dissolving aloneness into all oneness with infinite patience.
Might as well stay still.
When it takes you, you want to share it,
the hushed moment.
But moment is all there is,
a moment in a moment in a moment.
Maybe you can feel it between these words.
Maybe you too are a friend of silence.
When we meet
we’ll greet each other with the space inside.
Maybe it will quietly smile.
I photographed the Thacher School Gymkhana once again this year, and found myself again in awe of the skill, grace and poise of these young citizens, and pining for a horse to adopt for a year and a chance to return to high school.
Gymkhana is a term used in the United Kingdom, east coast of the United States, and other English-speaking nations to describe an equestrian event consisting of speed pattern racing and timed games for riders on horses. These events often emphasize children’s participation and may be organized by a recognized Pony Club or a 4-H club.
In most of the western United States, this type of competition is usually called an “O-Mok-See” (also spelled O Mok See or “Omoksee”) competition, a term derived from a Native American phrase meaning “games on horseback.” However, the term gymkhana is used in California. This event was held here in Ojai, CA.
I avoided moving to California for a long while, partly because it was Mill Valley and I had this irrational fear about becoming a mousey, mossy, androgynous Randy-o- the-Redwoods spiritual drifter. I was a solid and peak-bagging mountain man and wanted to keep that rocky mountain edge. In retrospect, I see that I didn’t trust my water nature and emotional self enough to make the leap until I had a compelling reason and community to dive into.
If you haven’t seen “The Man from Marin” and Vir, I will include a link to it here below so you can have some context for what shape that fear might take:
I have since embraced my inner Vir, or at least made a kind of truce and acceptance of that flavor of masculine expression. I’m still warming up to the other end of the spectrum, that sort of militant rigidity some men get after a men’s weekend orwatching too much cage fighting or learning tips and tricks from the PUA community. I am still working on embracing my inner tough guy.
A couple conscious man resources:
No list of feminine/masculine writings would be complete without mentioning David Deida. I really love the Way of the Superior Man and Blue Truth. They are great articulations of polarity and spiritual partnership. He also has a good DVD of a live workshop in Australia that I had but have lost track of.
Another is the podcast and blog The New Man by Tripp Lanier. The tagline of the site is “Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp”.
I can definitely relate to that balancing act…teetering somewhere between Veer and Mike Tyson. To clarify: I am teetering in jeans and not in bell-bottomed Lululemon pants.
…or, more precisely, from the Divine Feminine in all of its aspects, including Ma Nature. I grew up mainly with my mother and sister, and in the mountains and streams of Colorado. The things I have loved most in my life had a radiant and light-filled quality, and I was always drawn to where light gathered. It tends to collect and pool around the feminine and all natural forms.
Everything I know I’ve learned from the mothers and the grandmothers. This is my rampage of appreciation for the feminine–for their forbearance and grace in the face of overwhelming challenges, prejudices, and atrocities that were elucidated in the Manifesto for Conscious Men.
As a portrait photographer and being-based life coach, I spend a lot of time attention on giving form to essence, which is essentially genderless and birthless and deathless and never has a bad hair day. But as a carnal and incarnate man I can also appreciate the shapes and forms that essence takes in feminine form. Let me count just a few of the ways in which I am grateful to this beautiful and divine reflection.
Most of all I love the divine feminine for the ways it entices, cajoles, eludes, dances, shines, attracts, confronts, and rests in life as life and draws all to her and from her, with an in the bones acceptance and poise.
So to all the women out there, Happy Mothers Day, whether you have birthed a biped this lifetime or not.
See the related post: My Fear of Being Veer: Reflections on the New Masculinity.
Anything standing between where you are now and where you would like to be is clutter. Key to cutting through or stepping beyond it is remembering the “Big 4:”
The key to that is really taking the time to do the inner work to get clear on whats here now and what matters to you. It is a discipline that pays huge dividends in your work/life balance because it gives you permission to say no to the things that keep you from moving from good to great, or from what Gay Hendricks, in the book the Upper Limit Problem, calls your Zone of Excellence to your Zone of Genius. Just as importantly, it gives you a compelling “why” that makes all the “footwork” fun instead of a chore.
And..it frees up huge energy! “The most powerful way to live a more energetic, happy, rewarding, and meaningful life is to identify your strengths and use them to serve a cause greater than yourself.–John Gordon.
The Unibomber gave “manifestos” a bad and desperate name but it is one of the most fluid and powerful ways to articulate and focus your core values around the value you provide to your customers. I absolutely love these little pieces of crystalline business prose and helping people create, embody, and actualize them.
Carrie & Danielle have an absolutely fantastic design/creation manifesto at: http://carrieanddanielle.com/style-statement/teachings/
Fast Company is always an inspiring resource for business vision and ideas and there is an interesting article and video called How to Write a Mission Statement that Doesn’t Suck.
There are an increasing number of conscious business resources that can help you stay focused on the core principles/values that uniquely define your passion and your business. I am listing a few of my favorites below.
Greg Habstritt has launched numerous businesses and business coaching programs including the Engaged Entrepreneur and Simple Wealth. He has book called The Branson Effect with an online assessment you can take that identifies your core passions driving your business success. He calls it your Success DNA.
My top five success drivers in my success DNA are:
I make sure that each of those are liberally sprinkled into any of my projects and the business and marketing planning I do.
Take the Success DNA assessment for free at www.authorityformula.com.
I have also taken the Passion Test with Chris and Janet Atwood twice, and am currently serving as Photo Editor for the online magazine Passion Test Daily. Keeping my own top 5 passions front and center helps me clear through my own organizational clutter and direct my life energy in directions I love most. You can check it out at www.passiontest.com.
There are many, many amazing conscious business and conscious/spiritual marketing coaches and consultants, but some that I find myself tuning into on a regular basis include Jeanna Gabellini, Jim Bunch, and Brian Whetten. I encourage you to contact any of them if there message resonates with you.
If you have any other conscious business coaches or resources you love, please feel free to share them here.